Couples can quarrel a lot. What is the basic value of each or to whom or what is each member committed? Compromises are easier to make when both are directed by the same or similar values, goals, or heroes.
[A way to live John 18:33-37, one of the readings in many churches for the Last Sunday after Pentecost from the Revised Common Lectionary for 11/22/15. Pilot calls upon Jesus to say whether or not he is the King of the Jews. Jesus answers, “His kingdom is not of the world.”]